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We were very sexually active for our first two years together. My wife and I have been married for several years. Over the past six months, I have felt my overall sexual attraction to her diminishing to the point that, even though she is absolutely stunning she could be a model , which I am reminded of by strangers almost every time we go out together , I no longer find myself sexually attracted to her at all.
At the start of our relationship, the sex was OK and we were very sexually active for the first two years. I have explained to her that she lacks passion , no matter how much energy I bring. In our last conversation, she said she is just shy. Two months on, she has settled back into just avoiding it.
She is a lovely, caring woman, but my patience has worn thin, which sucks in such a young marriage. When a person feels judged — especially as frequently as you have described — they can lose confidence and withdraw. As a rule, positive reinforcement is the best way to teach a person.
In your situation, that would mean praising and rewarding even small achievements and never again finding fault. I suspect she is feeling confused — especially if you have not been sufficiently specific with her about what you like. Your wife cannot read your mind, and I believe she does not really understand how to be seductive the way you would like. Eventually she will regain confidence. But in terms of her own libido, it is up to you to kindly and non-judgmentally encourage her to share her own interests and tastes with you. This might be uncomfortable for her, so do not push — again, praise her and act on anything she does reveal.
Your job is to discover how she likes to be pleasured — that is the best way to fix this. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders. If you would like advice from Pamela on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.
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