Added: Johanna Sellers - Date: 25.10.2021 11:36 - Views: 26388 - Clicks: 3997
Thank you for reaching out and asking these important questions. I am going to share my thoughts on your situation as candidly as possible. However, there is another side to infidelity that many people are unaware of or fail to acknowledge—the emotional affair. An emotional affair is when a married or committed partner turns to an individual outside of the partnership to fulfill emotional needs. The situation you are describing with your coworker sounds like an emotional affair, especially because it appears that your wife is not aware of the type and amount of contact you have had with this woman.
Eventually, many people find themselves in an all-out affair. Even if nothing has happened yet, there is a very real possibility that could change very quickly. There are a few ificant things that make a relationship with someone outside of a partner so enticing. As anyone who has ever purchased a new car can attest, the newness of the car is exciting. After a while, however, the newness wears off and you get accustomed to it. Then, you become more aware of its quirks and maintenance costs.
At this point, some people will trade in for a newer car to try to recapture that feeling. In marriage, the concept is the same—when you met your wife, it was new and exciting. Now, after 32 years, two children, two grandchildren, and a life together, the newness is gone. The excitement has worn off, and you know this woman like you know yourself.
Starting a new relationship after a long marriage can be exciting, but I must caution you that the friendship you describe is steeped in fantasy; almost every new relationship is. At this point, your life with your wife is full of responsibility and with the daily tasks of living—the bills, kids, grandkids, work, college tuition, and household chores. From my perspective, happiness is an internal condition. If there is one thing that is constant in this life, it is that nothing stays the same. Therefore, the highest task of living, in my opinion, is learning how to surf the waters of life and maintaining an inner sense of peace, joy, and happiness … no matter what is happening.
You do not have an easy choice to make in this situation, and I would encourage you to seek out someone to talk with you about this. A good therapist can help you navigate the waters and help you become aware of things you may not presently see.
Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. He is the one that should be crying. She is much younger and exploring. Let his selfish ness hurt him not you. Happiness is key in life and if I am not Happy my wife is not she is better of without me , sick of making her sad and I am sick to my stomach of not living , I am 52 and I see a lot of people getting sick and passing and that have never lived..
My husband did the same…21 years and he leaves for a younger woman after knowing her roughly 2 days. Left behind a teenager and we just bought a new home. I am at a loss. But thinking of u. Ironically, my husband said the exact same thing as this guy…he wanted to be truly happy. Funny, he never mentioned it to me and I would have worked on it with him. Any new relationship is exciting. After 24 years, I found out my husband was having an affair with a twenty-something.
I kept it together to minimize the damage to my kids. But he lost so much more than a wife. He never realized how far-reaching this one decision would be. Now he keeps coming around and wanting the whole family to go out to dinner. He is often a lost soul and sees a therapist. Think about when the novelty of this older man wears off for this girl. Mine left our marriage of 40 years just two months ago for another woman. He cheated years ago when kids were little.
So stupid. Now 58 and trying to imagine life without him; he was me and I was him so who am I now. So very hard not to be bitter and angry. I would be but sadness is my soulmate now. Trying to find reasons to keep going these days.
Kids help and keeping busy. Jackie G. My X just started seeing someone. He is possessive and controlling and manipulative. I would never be back with him. I worried about his well-being before. He was a mess after we split. Now he can build a relationship with her. It takes a lot of time. I was seething for an entire year. But it took a couple years. Let yourself be sad, you should be. And find something you enjoy doing. You have the whole world out there.
Sorry to hear your story. I suspected my husband was having an affair with a work college and after 32 years of marriage I knew him better than he knew himself. He told me they were just good friends. I know now thats a bad . Always believe you gut, its never wrong. So time marched on and She left her partner and ran away with another married man. But little did I know that the wheels fell of that wagon and she snuck back into town licking her wounds. Who was the first person she called. My husband. He started acting distant, forgetful, moody ect.
I asked him what I had done. Kept telling me Nothing is wrong. Its work, I am stressed. Were Sole Mates, I am thinking about leaving. So I said. Ok off you go. Well she is 15years younger than me. Blond, thin, attractive. And she must be a great conversationalist.Married looking for discrtete girlfriend
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