Friends in the old fashioned way

Added: Fawna Woolf - Date: 17.04.2022 14:27 - Views: 29069 - Clicks: 2866

We all like to think we have fairly active social lives. However, at the risk of sounding like an old man, I feel that social media has killed our ability to approach people, speak to them, engage them in conversation and make them feel comfortable. Think about it. We meet people on platforms like Facebook and Twitter, then potential lovers on Tinder, Plenty Of Fish and RSVP, and those awkward first moments are null and void thanks to that internet connection and phone in our hands.

These days, once something is Facebook official, that is it. This is in stark contrast to real friends who see each other on a regular basis, catch up for coffee dates, and share their intimate secrets. A lot of us are in the same boat. We finished school, kept one or two life long pals, we might socialise with someone from work on the odd occasion, but apart from that, we run in the same circles. Apart from this, there is little need to speak to new people.

It is even more daunting when we have to do things like ring up to make appointments, or worse still, attend a job interview. The thing is, the ability to talk to people is a very underappreciated skill. By this, I mean that some people I have met have all the confidence in the world when it comes to meeting new people, striking up a conversation, building a rapport with people and making friends. I will admit, when it comes to writing, I feel confident in my ability to prepare. When putting forward my point of view in my own time, I can think clearly and write down exactly what I think and word it in the best possible way.

However, I know I struggle to think on my feet when it comes to a live discussion hence why I fell flat when I ed the debate team in high school! Some people may be lucky enough to have both of these abilities, yet they might lack the ability to, for example, make good financial decisions. Anyway, you get my point. You accept an invitation to dinner with a group of new people your colleague has introduced you to, in the hope of sparking up some friendships.

Meeting new people in an informal setting, say, a pub dinner presents many pitfalls. Be sure to be conscious of these things. Meeting new people is something we all need to learn to do, whether it is making new friends, meeting our in-laws or the more daunting meetings like job interviews. Social media has definitely deprived the next generation of some social skills necessary to flourish in life, but with these tips, making new friends and talking to strangers should be a little easier. We can learn so much from listening to others, as well as feel good if someone else has listened to us.

We all need a shoulder to vent on occasionally, as long as you reciprocate! Like Like. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google . You are commenting using your Twitter . You are commenting using your Facebook . Notify me of new comments via . Notify me of new posts via . Pilot Post: A writer in the country. A European Honeymoon Climate Change…who is to blame? Social Skills vs Social Media. How to make new friends the old fashioned way! Relationship Tips Are you in a Toxic Relationship? Sincerity, or a Snow Job? How to Tell the Difference. Social Tips Bullies.

Why are they still a thing? More than twenty years later, do we still need Girl Power? So Pop — Sydney, Girl Power. Boy Power. People Power. Friendship Never Ends. Hoarders and Minimalists: How do you sort the sentimental treasures from the clutter?

Search for:. When you first meet, make an effort. Ensure you greet your new acquaintances with warmth, and you make the effort to learn their names. One method which I always find effective is to repeat it back to them. Go to the meeting with the intent to find out more about everyone. Go to the meeting with pre-prepared conversation topics in case of an awkward silence. People always joke about people who talk about the weather, but it is actually a hidden gem. The weather is an amazing ice breaker because it is universal; literally everyone in the world can relate to it.

Maybe also try to find out a little about their jobs, interests and hobbies ahead of time. Positivity is contagious. Use that to your advantage! People always want to be around someone who lights up the room and makes them smile. Being down and feeling sorry for yourself is exhausting, not just for you, but everyone you encounter. Look for a common interest. For example, films starring Anne Hathaway. When her next film comes out, you could use that as an excuse to invite them to go and see it! We all love to talk about ourselves, but like chocolate, moderation is the key. Ask them something about themselves.

Watch for subtle social queues. If your company is boring or unappealing to others, chances are they will be too polite to tell you upfront. Do not continue with the story. Try not to stand out in a negative way. Observe the situation and adapt to it. Do not discuss politics or religion. These are extremely sensitive topics which can destroy friendships before they even begin. Happy socialising, xoxo Brett Share this: Twitter Facebook.

Like this: Like Loading Leave a Reply Cancel reply comment here Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:. required Address never made public. Name required. Loading Comments Required Name Required Website.

Friends in the old fashioned way

email: [email protected] - phone:(393) 924-3737 x 1760

Making friends the old fashioned way